Which is More Old Fashioned: Mad Men or Congress? Christina Hendricks Knows

Earlier this year, during President Obama’s State of the Union Address made a Mad Men reference that got him a lot of attention:

“Today, women make up about half our workforce. But they still make 77 cents for every dollar a man earns. That is wrong, and in 2014, it’s an embarrassment. A woman deserves equal pay for equal work. She deserves to have a baby without sacrificing her job. A mother deserves a day off to care for a sick child or sick parent without running into hardship – and you know what, a father does, too. It’s time to do away with workplace policies that belong in a “Mad Men” episode.”

Well, now Funny or Die has an awesome new video up with Christina Hendricks of Mad Men talking about today’s modern offices


Why Aren’t There More Women in Movies?

A new action adventure film is coming out, which means it’s yet another opportunity to ask the age old question of why there aren’t more women not only in leading roles, but in movies to begin with. The New York Film Academy asked exactly that question last year during the launch of the last Hunger Games movie which features another female lead (albeit some women take issue with whether or not she’s a real feminist).  I could probably go off for hours on whether or not Katniss is a real feminist… but I’ll spare you.

I digress… The real question is… What’s up with the ratio of dudes vs. ladies in films? Here’s a friendly infographic that helps illustrate:


This Nigerian minister wants you to be a better wife

Before I launch into this ass-cactus who has no business telling anyone how they should run their marriage… let me also remind you BNR is beginning a series on dating in the progressive world where we will have staff, guests, and sometimes scientists answer any and all questions you have. Feel free to email sex@bluenationreview.com with questions!

In other news… here is this guy:

Remember ladies, you don’t own your body. You’re only here to please men and push other men out of your lady parts. Oh, also to clean and make him a sandwich. If you’re not fulfilled by these requirements, then clearly there is something wrong with YOU. You’re probably a witch and we might ought to burn you at the stake. Remember this fun moment in The West Wing? I’m just saying… “It has nothing to do with husbands and wives, it’s all of us. St. Paul begins the passage ‘Be subject to one another out of reverence to Christ. Be subject to ONE ANOTHER…”

So, you’re going to find it shocking that there are some things I agree with that Nigerian minister Tony Rapu has said (though not for the reason he would think) and some things I find abhorrent.

Here are some really messed up philosophies:


Let me just answer this: so does a cat. Just saying.

Read more: http://bluenationreview.com/nigerian-minister-wants-better-wife/#ixzz3e2JCbim6

Absolutely, and if there’s one thing wives hate it’s being married to someone who doesn’t contribute. Relationships are a partnership. Give and take doesn’t mean one person gives while the other person takes. That’s called being an asshole. When one partner doesn’t contribute it makes the other unhappy. And everybody knows… when Mom ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy.

First of all – I hope he’s not talking about depression. Because that’s a whole other category. If you’re just talking about displeasure then see above. If she’s not happy because you’re not contributing, then that’s the fault of the spouse. If she’s unhappy because of external factors then again, it comes back to the partnership where you help each other out. You should motivate and encourage each other.

Here are some things I find that I do actually agree with:

Here’s a newsflash: if you want to change who someone is, why are you married to him or her? Don’t marry someone who doesn’t meet your needs. If you have to constantly nag your spouse because he (or she I suppose) doesn’t meet your needs, that means something is out of balance. Either resolve it and figure out what the source is, or the relationship isn’t for you.

Congratulations, Tony Rapu, you’ve become the biggest divorce advocate in all of Christian ministry!

Want more of this guy? Check out the storify. There’s a great deal of conflict in his advice.



LEGO Acknowledges Women Are Scientists Too!

I loved playing with LEGOs when I was a kid. In fact, I personally still fantasize about investing in the Frank Lloyd Wright Falling Waters LEGO kit even as a semi-adult.  But the gender neutral toy has taken a turn for the gender specific in the last several years, focusing more on action figures for boys and princesses for girls.

Well, no more! This week LEGO announced it was joining the advocates of female STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) by launching their Women in Science LEGO sets.

The final results feature The Research Institute comprising the labs of the Astronomer, the Paleontologist, and the Chemist:

Women in Science LEGOs

How did something like this come to pass? The awesomeness of the internet. Last year an online campaign was started and check out the tweets the campaign got in just 24 hours:

Here are several other designs that were up for consideration as well that LEGO should totally make happen:Women in Science LEGOs
Falconer with two birds, Geologist with compass and hammer in the field & Robotics Engineer designing a robot arm
Women in Science LEGOs
Zookeeper with tiger, Judge & Mail carrier with bicycle
Women in Science LEGOs
Mechanic, Fire fighter & Construction worker




A Guide for Dudes: Here’s What to Do and What Not To Do

I’d just finished a fun dinner with my bestest girl friends, jumped in my hot car and took off the shirt that I was wearing over my low cut tanktop and cranked on the A/C.  I stopped on the way home at a 7-11 to fill my car up with gas, but before I got out of the car I grabbed the shirt and put it back on over my tanktop.  Why did I do this?

As a Millennial woman, I was raised in a culture that has taught me that if I don’t want to get raped I need to take steps to prevent the rape.  In the sex-ed classes across the southern states like the ones where I grew up, we spread lies in abstinence only education, we shame girls and women for what they wear, God forbidyour breast be exposed during the halftime game at the Superbowl. But we never teach our sons and men this key message: ASK CONSENT FIRST.

Here’s one way to do it:


RIP Maya Angelou

As an English major I was required to read some of the best pieces of literature of all time and some of the most pathetic pieces of crap ever penned and published. Maya Angelou has long been one of my most favorite authors. The rhythm of her words, whether poetry or prose, roll off a mental tongue in a way that made my mind dance among the letters scrolled on the page.

Via the AP:

“Author and poet Maya Angelou, who rose from poverty, segregation and violence to become a force on stage, screen and the printed page, has died. She was 86…

She gained acclaim for her first book, her autobiography “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,” making her one of the first African-American women to write a best-seller.”

Her talent will live forever in her words, but her presence will be missed.



Historic art is Beautiful but I Guess the Women Were Fatties?

Best idea ever brought to you by the good people at TakePart.com: historic pieces of art that show the shift in body image in our culture from beautiful voluptuous woman to too-skinny manish photoshopped models whose thighs don’t touch.

There are just a few of these – for more check out TakePart.com

Jean Auguste Dominique Ingres, Grande Odalisque, 1814


Raphael, Three Graces, 1504–1505


Sandro Botticelli, Birth of Venus, 1486

(A version of this appeared on BNR)


Rant: Your Messed Up Christian Tradition is Fetishizing Little Girls

David-MagnussonPurityI hate to break this news for all the folks writing this story, but Purity Balls aren’t new. This isn’t some fancy modern trend like hipsters or fondu. It’s something right-wing girls and their weird-ass families have concocted to glamorize controlling the sexuality of women and fetishizing the idea of women as little girls.

The first ever official Purity Ball was in the late 1990’s out of Colorado Springs.  Before that, there have been beautiful ceremonies from aristocratic traditions presenting debutant daughters to “society.” Freemasons have a charity and community service focused club and event/ball for it’s International Order of the Rainbow for girls. And I suppose there are always Bat Mitzvahs, celebrating the transition of girls into womanhood with bad DJ’s and enough teenage drama to make Romeo and Juliet want to kill themselves … again.

But unlike all of these coming of age traditions, a Purity Ball is the only one that attempts to repress girls by taking all of those padded bras, the red lipstick and lady-part desires and shoving them deep down where they belong.

All of this, an effort to remind girls that until Daddy gives you away, you’re owned by him. Daddy symbolizes this with a ring for his little girl wear to show her purity for him. His little girl pledges that she’ll never go on a date, kiss a boy, or hold his dirty, sweaty awkward hand. Oh and his little girl gets a pretty frilly white dress to dance in with Daddy. One such Daddy named Ron told his little girl as he placed the ring on her finger:

“This is just a reminder that keeping yourself pure is important. So you keep this on your finger and from this point you are married to the Lord, and your father is your boyfriend.”

Now if you’re a grown ass woman and this is your fetish of choice, then rock on with your bad self. If, however, you’re one of the girls portrayed in the new book by Swedish photographer David Magnusson (as seen in the top right), something ain’t right.

Women, regardless of their age, aren’t owned by men, even their fathers. This kind of thinking is a throwback to the days when having a daughter was devalued over a son.  Yes, there was once an era when girls were seen as property and “given away” by their fathers at their weddings for a price the family paid (dowry). Women were essentially sold to husbands.

As well-intentioned as these misguided fathers might be, claiming that these girls are “owned” by men teaches daughters they are only “things.” By focusing on sex being “sacred,” they’re teaching girls that when they turn out to be like the 95% of the rest of the world that has sex before marriage, that they are now impure and dirty… worthless… and that they have broken a vow with their father… like they cheated on him or something.

That doesn’t make a father loving, compassionate, cautious or over caring. It’s emotional manipulation. And it’s wrong. This breaking news might be hurtful to some, but a man’s penis isn’t that powerful or that important. A man’s penis can’t devalue anyone, in fact no one can devalue you. And if a man chooses to devalue a woman for being powerful enough to own herself, it makes the man nothing more than what he wishes he had – a giant prick.


H/T: Guttmacher